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Recently, my 9-year-old daughter had a slumber party for her birthday. It was difficult because her school, which is an all-girl school, requires that everyone or no one receive an invitation to the party at school. We didn’t want everyone to attend because it would have been too many children overnight, i.e. around 25 kids. She decided to invite 10 of her girl friends, and the invitations were sent to the kids’ homes. Unfortunately, word got out, and my daughter was miserable because many people felt hurt that they weren’t invited. It became a very secretive party that cost her several friends in the class. Is there a better way to handling invitations when only some of the kids in the class will be invited? This has been a disaster for our kid at school
It does sound very difficult. Often, schools have this policy in place in order for these awkward situations of hurt feelings not to arise. At the age of nine-years-old, it becomes very difficult, however. Kids are into each other’s business, and talk a lot among one another. A special slumber party where only certain people have been invited would be good school gossip. Unfortunately, keeping the invitations out of the classroom does not help, and actually made the situation worse.
Recently, the question arose from a parent regarding the fact that her daughter had been invited to a slumber party and the invitation asked that the girls bring along their American Dolls to play with as well. This particular parents was very worried about the party as she had a limited budget, and her daughter did not have an American Girl doll to bring to the party. As a result, although her daughter accepted the invitation, she did not bring an “American Doll” and the parent was hoping that her daughter would be accepted and not ridiculed for bringing along a non American Girl doll.
