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Some of my friends and their kids attended a recent party that I threw for my three-year-old. What happened during the party was quite upsetting as I overheard my friends complaining about the party ~ how it was not fun, the food was not tasty, and that they thought it was generally as waste of time to attend. I am really hurt and don’t know if I should say something. Would you?
Look at the relationships you have with these “friends.” Are they close to you? Are you acquaintances? If you are close, have you grown apart lately? Once you have a clear sense of the importance of their friendship, you will be able to decide how you want to handle.
If they are close friends who you share a great deal of time with, definitely call them up and speak honestly about what you overheard. It may embarrass your friends to know that you overheard, but it should help you to feel better and to clear the air. Otherwise, if you don’t, this incident may drive a wedge between you with them that will become irreparable in time.
If these are acquaintances of yours or people who you aren’t very close to, you may not feel it is worth your time and energy to bring the situation to their attention. Simultaneously, you may also not invite them to future parties either which would definitely solve the problem.
If these are friends who you have grown apart from, perhaps they really didn’t want to be there or simply wanted to be nasty. In this case, let these “friends” go. You already are growing apart from them, and such an incident further seals this relationship fate for you. Let the negative people go.
