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Is it appropriate to place gift suggestions directly on the invitation? Some people say it’s rude, others think it is such a great idea. Is it appropriate or not? I would like to make specific suggestions, but don’t want to offend my friends.
With people being invited to so many parties today, times have changed. In our modern-day living, it is tough to find time to not only go out and purchase a gift, but also to think about an appropriate gift to give. Often, when people call to RSVP, they may ask the host parent what their child wants as a present to get an idea. Of course, that also takes remembering to ask.
At the same time, parents often know what their kids are interested in, i.e. art and crafts, games, etc. Instead of receiving a bunch of gifts that they may have to take back, donate, or even re-gift, it makes sense to provide people wit specific suggestions as to what gifts may be best.
This is a win-win for both sides. As long as the host parents provide gift suggestions that are reasonably priced, the birthday kid receives presents that they really like, and the guests’ parents are able to save time by knowing immediately what the child wants and being able to get it without thinking or taking too much time.
What’s the problem then? Traditionally, host parents never made such suggestions, and the gifts were a surprise that the birthday kid kept and enjoyed. So, many people today may remember those days and are not happy to see host parents ask for something specific as this may be deemed as “over-the-top.” In actuality, people are looking to help their guests by simplifying the gifting process. People who think in this traditional way, would suggest that host parents mention it during the RSVP conversation.
So, this is a classic clash between tradition and modern manners. If you feel comfortable, go ahead and place it on the invitation. Some people may be offended, but others won’t be. As parties continue to evolve, this will become more common practice, but for now you will have to decide what is comfortable for you knowing that some people will agree and others will not.
