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My 12-year old son was indirectly invited to a birthday party with only one day’s notice. He really wants to go because they are all friends. I think it is unacceptable, is it?
It would be interesting to know how he was “indirectly” invited, as it does not sound like a direct invitation was made. At the age of 12, your son will definitely want to attend with all of his friends. Traditionally, sending invitations with only one day’s notice is completely unacceptable as it gives no one time to respond or to make time for, what most likely will be, an already planned day. So, it is not how invitations should ever be done.
Given the fact that this invitation was given indirectly and that your son really wants to attend, it is acceptable for you to let him attend, as long as there isn’t something that you have already scheduled. If there is, it’s not 100%necessary for you to change your plan ~ that really depends on what you have on to do.
I also think it would be acceptable to raise this with the host parent and express your thoughts. Of course, she most likely had sent out invitations to the guests in a timely fashion. One thing I remember from being a kid when I was around the age of 12. I was not very popular in my class, but all of a sudden that changed one day, literally, it was like the kids just had a change of heart toward me, and with that I was invited to a flurry of parties that I had not received the “real” invitation to attend. My mother was furious that I would think of attending when wasn’t given a proper invitation and these kids were not particularly nice to me. In my own mind, I didn’t care, I just wanted to attend and be with everyone. Funny situations crop up around these pre-teen years.
If you don’t have any other plans on, there’s no harm in your son attending. You could bring it up with the host parent if appropriate as well. Please do know that this type of inviting, with such short notice, is under most circumstances unacceptable.
