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A friend who has agreed to host your party, pass out your invitations, and generally help out at the party invites a bunch of her friends to the party…only letting you know at the very last minute rather than discussing the additional guests with you beforehand.
Well, it is a tricky situation for a couple of reasons. Clearly the friend is lending significant help to your birthday party ~ so she probably feels she should be allowed to invited whom she wants as well. Yet, she knows this is sort of awkward and so instead of discussing with you beforehand and/or telling you upfront, she just invites them and drops the news on you…hoping that all of her help will lead you to be “OK” with it.
In this situation, discuss this with your friend before or after the party. Acknowledge that your friend has provided significant help and support to the party, but let her know, if this is before the party, that you would appreciate her not inviting anyone else due to party budget/time/space restraints. If you do this after the party, let her know how much you appreciated all of her help, but that you wish she would have discussed the list of people she had invited before actually inviting them. You could be honest and say we didn’t know these people well enough to have them celebrate our kids’ party with them, etc.
It might be difficult to do ~ as it is an awkward situation for both parties ~ but it is also necessary to clear the air.
