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We had a big party for my daughter who turned five last year. We had many kids and families attend, an entertainer, a fabulous cake. Loads of fun. Of course, we only want to hold such parties every so often and not every year. Still, she has told everyone that we are having a big party for her 6th birthday this year ~ just like last year! We were planning on a small family party…is this fair to her?
After such a big party for her birthday party, of course she wants to have another big party this year. What kid wouldn’t? Don’t let her party talk discourage you from planning the party you hope to have this year. The important thing is to explain that her party was a special celebration last year, and this year is also going to be special celebrating with her family…perhaps you will go on a special outing or celebrate with cake and candles to begin the day? The key is to talk up what you have planned for this year, and explain that a big party is not how each and every birthday has to be celebrated…that there are other ways to mark the day.
If she insists on sharing it with her friends, then place a boundary. Perhaps invite one to two friends over for a birthday play date or for a special outing to a movie, etc. This can also be a lot of fun and different, although still not a big party.
It may seem disappointing to your daughter since it won’t be full of her friends and a professional entertainer, but this is an unrealistic expectation for any child to have year in and year out. You don’t need to point this out to your daughter, however, all you need to do is build excitement for this year’s plan.
